They don’t lose money on users like you.

The US is 4% of the world’s population.

Is port 22 accessible and pointed at it? You could also run it on an alternate port and specify that port in your ssh config.

I’m not that conventionally attractive and Bumble worked great for me in my late 30s. People on different platforms are looking for different things. Bumble had its niche and it was very successful there, even if it was not for you like the other apps we’re not for me.