• slacktoid@lemmy.ml
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    I would argue its more how much you’re a part of the in group. Compared to a man a woman is in the out group. Compared to a white woman a black man is in the out group. The person in the outgroup is just the aggressive one. Gender is only one dimension IMO.

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      That depends on the make up of the group just as much as the make up of the person

      Your white male KKK neighbour isn’t assertive

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        That’s why I generalized it based on the in and out group dynamics.

        I am unsure of the point you are trying to make.

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          Your post focuses on people being in the out group

          It comes off as racist/sexist

          Compared to a man a woman is in the out group. Compared to a white woman a black man

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            I’m sorry those statements offend you cause you can’t understand the point I’m trying to make Go enjoy some boobies and feel better. Or don’t.

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              You don’t have to apologize, just in the future don’t paint minorities as outsiders

              It normalizes hate

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                It’s a good point that we shouldn’t passively describe them as outsiders. The problem about that is the original post is criticizing that society sees women as aggressive rather than assertive for the same behavior. The comment you have a problem with is not condoning that point of view. It’s pointing out that the problem goes beyond gender and happens to those seen as ‘outsiders’.

                They’re trying to add nuance to the post.