I’m in this boat with my kiddo, and like you I intend to give serious and honest answers for any questions (although occasionally I do say “I don’t think you’re quite ready for that topic yet”, or I’ll keep the details light and inform her of why).
It’s been working out great, similar age to yours. She trusts me to give her real info no matter the topic (this is invaluable), she accepts when I tell her that she’s probably not quite ready for XYZ, and the auxiliary benefit is that I’m forcing myself to get a bit more efficient even when I’m in --verbose mode.
ETA: we’re also careful to tell her that we expect her to make her own opinions about everything and not just accept ours. That includes things like religious beliefs and politics when she decides to engage with those topics.
And yeah, I try to scope things down to their age level. If my kiddo is asking why I don’t like a given politician, they don’t need the whole rundown of their platform, just one or two bullet points to take back to their friends in a “but my dad said…” type argument. The same goes with sciency stuff, they usually don’t care, they just want to win some argument (e.g. my older kids love telling my youngest that the sun is going to explode).
And yeah, when there are multiple sides, I’ll try to explain them as best I can. If the issue isn’t settled, I’ll explain the various sides as best I can and tell them why I arrived at the conclusion I did, as well as how much I trust the evidence from each side. We haven’t discussed it, but if we talk about global warming/climate change, I’ll try to explain why one group says we need immediate change and the other wants a more measured approach, what impact it could have on the economy, etc, but in terms appropriate for their age level. If it seems they’re at an impasse about something w/ a friend, I’ll ask them to try to explain things from the other kid’s perspective. And then we’ll explore why they might feel that way, and why that’s different from how my kid feels. That’s usually enough for them to find some kind of compromise.
Hopefully that approach helps them understand that considering other points of view is valuable, but at the end of the day, they should follow the direction the facts lead them.
I’m in this boat with my kiddo, and like you I intend to give serious and honest answers for any questions (although occasionally I do say “I don’t think you’re quite ready for that topic yet”, or I’ll keep the details light and inform her of why).
It’s been working out great, similar age to yours. She trusts me to give her real info no matter the topic (this is invaluable), she accepts when I tell her that she’s probably not quite ready for XYZ, and the auxiliary benefit is that I’m forcing myself to get a bit more efficient even when I’m in
--verbosemode.ETA: we’re also careful to tell her that we expect her to make her own opinions about everything and not just accept ours. That includes things like religious beliefs and politics when she decides to engage with those topics.
Awesome, you rock.
And yeah, I try to scope things down to their age level. If my kiddo is asking why I don’t like a given politician, they don’t need the whole rundown of their platform, just one or two bullet points to take back to their friends in a “but my dad said…” type argument. The same goes with sciency stuff, they usually don’t care, they just want to win some argument (e.g. my older kids love telling my youngest that the sun is going to explode).
And yeah, when there are multiple sides, I’ll try to explain them as best I can. If the issue isn’t settled, I’ll explain the various sides as best I can and tell them why I arrived at the conclusion I did, as well as how much I trust the evidence from each side. We haven’t discussed it, but if we talk about global warming/climate change, I’ll try to explain why one group says we need immediate change and the other wants a more measured approach, what impact it could have on the economy, etc, but in terms appropriate for their age level. If it seems they’re at an impasse about something w/ a friend, I’ll ask them to try to explain things from the other kid’s perspective. And then we’ll explore why they might feel that way, and why that’s different from how my kid feels. That’s usually enough for them to find some kind of compromise.
Hopefully that approach helps them understand that considering other points of view is valuable, but at the end of the day, they should follow the direction the facts lead them.