Sure, it’s gatekeeping coffee - the reason we build walls with gates is to keep the barbarians out! I wasn’t trying to ‘gatekeep caffeine’ in the slightest, those concotions are defintely cafffinated hot drinks. And of course, by some standard they’re ‘coffee’ and so is tiramsu.

Apple jacks pop tarts are made from apples (apple powder, but apples nothertheless), and while it might be a small fraction of the total, the point where it stops being fruit and becomes a snack is an arbitary line. I assume you consider a drink made with instant coffee powder still coffee?

Obviously, it’s a silly semantic debate, and someone could equally judge me for wanting my coffee beans roasted and ground “why not eat the berries fresh if you say you love coffee‽”.

Everyone’s entitled to as much caffeine as their bodies can handle, but it is pretty odd to ‘love coffee’ but actually love ‘coffee-flavoured hot milkshake’. Like saying ‘I love fruit’ but really meaning ‘I love apple jacks pop tarts’, it’s not wrong, just a bit odd.

Yeah, when life wasn’t going well I’d sometimes buy a lottery ticket just to indulge in a fantasy of what would happen if I won. But then I’d find myself focusing on what would happen if I died and how I’d write my will…

Who was that? Or any more details? I’m intrigued!

Edit: do you just mean marx? That’s less intriguing, not wrong, but less intriguing.

If drinking less isn’t actually your priority at the moment, it shouldnt be the focus of your therapy sessions. And if your therapist doesn’t follow your lead, then you should get a different one.

If you find opening up and admitting shit in therapy hard, then make that your new focus in sessions. As someone who’s seen my fair share of therapists, most of them are very thankful if you start with “I almost didn’t come to therapy, because I kinda don’t belive it works” (but maybe it’s also that I feel hopeless about changing my life in general) or “I often lie in therapy because I want you to like me” (does that pattern appear in other parts of your life?)

Start with first obstacle, not the biggest or even the most harmful. Then you can work on those things first, rather than waste time, money and frustration pretending to be doing something else.

I think he’s suggesting that if someone doesn’t know their world ranking, then they might be quite good, but not seriously good. And if they are world ranked, they wouldn’t claim “they could beat anyone” unless they were the world champion. In which case they would know.

Bur he can’t really know anything about your skills from a comment, so who cares. Either way, you’d both certainly smash my sorry ass.

I’ve recently started using IP Webcam to turn an old handset into a camera. It’s not open source, but it doesn’t seem to be too annoying, and so far it seems to work surprisingly smoothly and has been up & stable for a couple of weeks.