I went to lemmy.world, the biggest community, searched the community list for my various interests, and picked one to subscribe to from there, generally favoring the largest community for it. Then I subbed to [email protected]. That’s how I did and do community discovery.
The will to post is there but the amount of journaling I do is zero and will remain so. I would post some of my PKMS stuff there if I did any this week, but right now I have not added anything to that.
I could put effort into contributing to my PKMS specifically to have stuff to post on the Fediverse but I also have things I need to do in my real life.
Disclaimer: have not actually read Lolita.
From what I know of it, if you just take it at face value it appears to be approving of pedophilia, because the narrator defends his pedophilia, but the perspective the author wants you to come away with is “wow, this protagonist defending his pedophilia is pretty disgusting.”
I definitely don’t think it should be banned, but a lot of people banned it thinking it was pro-pedophilia when that was the opposite of its point.
I am guessing you probably do not want a similar situation, where a fic taking a dump on bigotry (but not when read at purely face value, or just the narrators’ thoughts) gets removed on the grounds of positively portraying it. So that is one minefield I’d be careful of.
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Well, I’m trying to help out but in the end I’m not really a journaler, nor do I have any desire to become one. I’m sorry.
I know about the app where women message first. I also know men set their gender on the app to be a woman, so they can message first, and proceed to spam with dick pictures. So I still won’t use it.
I am sorry about the women who want but won’t give in return.
If it’s worth anything to you, I’ve been the initiator in almost every romantic relationship I’ve been in. I’m a woman. Unfortunately I’m also used to being the initiator in all my relationships, including friendships, so I also want a guy to initiate with me, like the women you are complaining about… but that doesn’t stop me from making the first move anyways. Saying this not for “pick me” stuff (please don’t, nothing against you personally but I’m still a little old school in wanting to meet someone in real life first, not online) but to give hope that not all women are going to do all the things you are complaining about.
I also won’t be found on dating apps because I’m convinced that’s a quick road to getting hit with misogyny, racism (I’m nonwhite in the United States of America), and idiot bigots trying to make me change my orientation (asexual, only romantically interested in men). I’ve never experienced it before, and I do not want to open the door to it. I have seen so many online complaints about how nasty people game systems meant to protect us (like in the example I gave about the app that makes women message first). So for anyone looking to make a Fediverse dating app, you might want to look into both how to prevent/punish that type of interaction, and how people get around it. I’m not actively looking for love but if I ever do I’m not going to be doing it online.
I used to make accounts on OKCupid as a 12 year old, pretending to be 43, just so I could do the matching system—I used it as a personality quiz. Still enjoy that kind of thing today. Not sure how many fake users akin to myself you would get, making a profile that harasses nobody but also is totally useless and one more thing for people looking for love to have to scroll by, for a database to store information on.
Not sure how I found out about that matching system as a 12 year old not looking for love online. I think it happened at least in part because whenever I would search the internet for personality quizzes, OKCupid often had some quiz that matched what I wanted.
One way to catch me out would have been that I never interacted with anyone. No viewing profiles besides my own, no messages sent.
As the type who downvotes almost every “dumb fuck!!” type comment, genuinely, thank you for taking the time to suppress the urge and be more constructive. I wish more people would do that.
[email protected], just do not check the comments because it is often full of doomer comments (even if true, depressing and counter to the purpose of uplifting news). Bad Law Repealed? Comments have stuff like “Bad Law existed in the first place because the cruelty is the point.” Solution to Problem Found? “Fuck whoever caused the problem.” Emphasizing the negative, not what I’m looking for. (It is on topic and not being awful to another user so I do not downvote, but I sure don’t like it.) Stick to the article linked if you want to be uplifted instead of quickly taken down by the comments.
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What kind of news gets posted here? I’m still trying to keep my feed clear of depressing things, and “wildfire claims lives” or “murder happened,” while nonpolitical, is still essentially blared at me 24/7 in the rest of my life. However I do appreciate this idea!
Also, have you posted to [email protected] yet?
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I am, totally forgot that I was. I do remember it’s smaller than [email protected] and sometimes gets duplicates, which is why I think I thought I did not bother.