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Cake day: July 12th, 2023

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  • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.workstoComic Strips@lemmy.worldFashion
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    5 days ago

    With cats isn’t alone. Also cats might be your “in” depending on the woman, and you don’t want any woman who doesn’t like cats anyway. You can probably think of a few things you can say (or ask) about your cats to the women you know at work, it’s a safe topic that also says reassuring things about you. Even share a few pics of their antics, checking the backgrounds beforehand to be sure there’s nothing you would have put away if they were coming over. Obviously it’s just a start, but good companions start as friends.




  • Tone of voice makes a difference. The scarf and especially the bag aren’t associated with body parts, which is better when it’s a man to women. He should compliment men as well. As a woman, I can say “Cute shoes!” without coming off fetishy, might not be so easy for a guy. Also, guy to guy, “wow, looks like you could run so fast in those shoes!” could be nice and funny, but frightening guy-to-girl. Sadly, a young woman can hardly compliment a young man without risking him hearing “I will fuck you” instead of whatever she really said. And being angry because she “led him on.” But now I’m old, I can. Still keeping it uncreepy of course, because most young guys don’t want to feel leered at by saggy old ladies. Always keep the power/age/gender dynamic in mind and imagine being the other before opening your mouth.


  • Cool, but for a different kind of victory, go for the slow deliberate blink. And hold it closed for a second before opening. To a cat this says, “I’m so not scared of you I can close my eyes.” Which translates to “I like you and we can trust each other, in this moment at least.” Try it a couple times, see if you can get them to blink back.