Yeah, same. Every day, no matter what happens, I wake up happy not to have to go to school. For decades now, the knowledge I don’t have to go to school has brought me joy daily. It was the worst “job” of my life so far, by far. College not as bad (I did work and have kids between, went as an adult) but work has still been better, and certainly pays better.

At least I am paid to sit at the computer. Hated being a kid, no freedom. Adult, responsibility, sure, but paid to work, go where I want, choose how to spend my time and honestly plenty of choice in HOW I get my paid work done.

I feel like if I were trying to manipulate that market I’d be trying to bend reality in a better direction.

I’m not even bi and I miss her posts, they were so hot.

Hospitality is both a satisfying and dreadful job at the same time. It doesn’t pay enough for what the work is. But the fundamental work is satisfying. The only chefs I’ve known who really enjoyed their jobs were private chefs for individual rich families. Both were well paid and had a lot of creative freedom.

I had a bread maker and it drove me crazy. It was Schrodinger’s bread box. Put in ingredients, wait, and at the end it’s either oddly shaped bread or a brick. Seemingly absolutely randomly. I hated it with my whole heart and gave it to my neighbor, who could not cook so 75% or whatever was a good enough success rate for her.

Bread is not difficult to make by hand (well, sourdough at least is easy & forgiving) but it takes knowledge of how the dough should look and feel. Flour can act different on different days, the ambient temperature matters, and how old is your yeast, there is no way to absolutely standardize what is going into that machine.

I work in participation sports, and agree with OP. I’ve seen people running in a long distance triathlon (which means they’ve already swum and biked a long distance) who, if I saw them in a different context, I’d not have thought them fit. Usually women, not men. Fat and cardiovascularly fit >skinny and idle. And I’ve seen really strong fat guys, maybe that’s not as perfect as lean & strong but is it worse than thin and weak?

It’s not the usual arrangement (fit and fat) but skinny and unfit is pretty common.

I don’t make fitness assumptions anymore, about people within some range, obviously there is a point where this isn’t true. I haven’t ever been fat and do not think I’d be one of those people (if I am in shape it shows in my visual shape) but plump fit people do exist.

That just looks like a facelift. Like damn near all actors get. Why do people compare younger pictures with older ‘done’ pics instead of old before and old after? Some ladies here at my work had eye lifts that came out great - they both look better - but if you compared their look now to when they were 45 of course they won’t look as good.

Damned if you do, damned if you don’t IMO.

Yes it’s confusing because “white” is a cultural category not a phenotype. Where I grew up the Hispanic people were the white people - all the rich Cubans who fled Castro, and people from Spain. You can be Hispanic & white, or black, or brown, it just means your grandparents spoke Spanish, basically. And it’s so funny because it was the white people who brought the Spanish language to the americas in the first place.

It’s not possible to understand racists with logic. Their ideas are illogical.

My kids’ elementary school had the opposite sort of message, the principal saying, in a flat slightly southern US accent - si quieres Espanol oprima el numero dos, like such an accent I am not sure anyone who spoke only Spanish would know what she was saying.

See

Kee-yer-is

Ess pan ohl

Oh pree muh

Ell

Noo mur oh

Dowhs.

Ack no, not in my house. I cook, husband does the dishes usually. I clean the dishwasher filter, maintain the machine and tell him not to clean the dishes before they go in. He doesn’t usually wash my cast iron because he was messing it up (which is not easy to do but he managed it) but all the regular dishes and most of the pots & pans are his world because he wants me to cook.

Violence in general was out of control in the 1980s & 90s where I live, if you look at crime charts you can see a sharp drop since I was growing up here. It used to be ROUGH.

I dunno - my ex burned all the skin off his hand once, the first question at the emergency room was “how are you paying?” and we waited there 5 hours before they saw him, during which time it got so much worse he ended up needing more treatment & therapy. No we didn’t have insurance or money back then. They eventually arranged temporary Medicaid for him as he couldn’t work with the hand so burned. Which left us without his income (I had just given birth too) so without much food.

Anyway - this was in the 1990s but I am absolutely sure we had to wait because we could not pay, even though it was an obvious emergency.

I am GenX and in my 20s lived stuffed into houses with 2 other couples so that we could make rent, I am not sure why people think we were skating on minimum wage, it was shit. If you put 6 wage earners in a house you can make it today too.

On college cost, that is absolutely true I do agree, it’s gotten so expensive it is not an automatic choice among my kids. Those who went straight out of school mostly didn’t have to borrow, nor did I pay much, they got scholarships to cover it.

A comedienne is a lady comic. She is saying she wants men but doesn’t find them attractive, which as a straight lady, makes absolute sense to me. Especially as I get older I wish I was bi, women age better (or more women age well is probably a better way to put it), and it would be easier in some ways. But alas, it’s men for me.

Illegal even in Florida. If you have to clock out for breaks you get 1/2 hour minimum lunch on an 8 hour shift. Plus I think 2 paid 15 minute breaks, on the clock. I can’t imagine this is real because no manager would document the illegal request in an email.

I have taken my kids to some pretty small concerts, that they asked for rides to, that garage band scene is still around it’s just not our scene anymore, right? The main difference I found is that my kids wanted to share the music with me, wanted me to go see it with them and my God I would never have done that with my mom.

So thankful they grew up and do wear stupid clothes (and sometimes awesome costumes for conventions). In our family there’s a cl at gender split - the boys & men including the trans one are less about going out, the girls & women are all more into going out to shows & events.

I always figured it was nature trying not to breed us into a race of giants, or midgets. I’m a lady and about the average height of men in my area (which my husband points out puts me in the top 5% of women’s height here even though I’m barely even tall) and mostly have dated men around my height. My ex was about my height and our kids were all average height. Husband also around my height. My husband’s ex was a lot shorter than him and his boys are not as tall as me, and I tease him, if he wanted tall kids he needed a tall mom.

So I guess if she had her kids with a tall guy they would have been average height but I never had to think about that, right? But if my kids dad had been really tall my kids would be like Really Tall, maybe more than is healthy?

I know nobody is having kids anymore, lol, but the preferences could be hard wired to some extent.

Also - if only 5% of women are my height or taller, there probably just aren’t enough of us around even if we wanted to breed giants.

I have a big family and cannot understand thinking everyone else in the world needs to do the same thing to make me feel ok about it. Like, how insecure do you have to be to need that? Can’t you just do what you want to because it’s your preference without needing it to be the only ‘right’ way? Just because something is good for me doesn’t mean it’s good for everyone, and it’s a good thing, too. I figured the only reason I even can have many is because others have none.

Viking! Watch out, here I come!