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  • Anger, especially in a situation like this, is expected, natural, and healthy. Not having anger in this situation would be a problem.

    If it’s causing issues in your life, though, it’s definitely worthwhile to consider taking some steps to improve your mental health.

    Therapy’s probably the obvious low-hanging fruit. You talk about “handling these feelings without making my partner feel guilty”. That’s something talk therapy would be really good at addressing.

    Another approach you can take (and not mutually exclusive with therapy by any means) is a mindfulness sort of practice. Both being mindful of your feelings during your regular day/routine as well as setting aside some time to sit still and watch your thoughts can be very helpful. Here’s one guide you could follow. But feel free to research and pick a method yourself if you prefer. (And you definitely don’t need an app unless that appeals to you.)


  • Huh! After reviewing, I think I must have mistaken something because my last two posts are not in the same community. (I also switched computers between my last comment two up and this one.)

    And now, if I pick a bunch of my posts in the same community, I’m consistently seeing that those apparently don’t work on Lemvotes. (Or at least I haven’t found a counterexample yet.)

    But the OP for this thread (to this community which is on Lemmy.world) works fine (for me, at least) on Lemvotes while my second-most-recent post (also to a community on Lemmy.world) doesn’t work on Lemvotes.

    And, yeah, I’m using the fediverse symbol link for all these tests. Maybe Lemmy.world blocks some communities for federation but not others? That’s about the only theory that makes sense to me off the top of my head so far.



  • Instance owners decide whether to federate to Lemvotes or not.

    Yeah, but I’m quite certain that I can find examples of posts/comments from the same instance, some of which works fine on Lemvotes and one of which doesn’t.

    For instance, my most recent two posts were:

    • Made by the same user (me)
    • Posted to the same instance
    • Posted to the same community on that instance
    • Within three days of each other

    But the most recent post works fine on Lemvotes while the second-most-recent gives me the 404 page.


  • I streamed for a while, just for fun. Never tried to get popular or anything. (And I never did get popular.) Just a humble speedrunning stream. I had like one viewer who caught my stream on anything like a frequent basis. I just made conversation while I streamed. It was very chill.

    All that to say, I think the issue with people is way easy for anyone who never has more than like… 4 simultaneous viewers?

    Oh, I think a lot of Peertube instances support live streaming. If you wanted to ensure your viewer base stayed small (and probably that it remained more civil than the average Twitch viewer), that might be a good way to go as well.

    And you’re probably right that I was pretty lucky to have pretty good internet where I live. My favorite content creator/streamer doesn’t stream so much any more because his ISP was shit for a good while. (His ISP was Cox and when he started dropping frames, he called it being “Cox blocked”. Lol.) He’s got way better internet now, and does occasionally stream, but hasn’t really gotten back into the groove of streaming like he used to, and maybe doesn’t want to any more.

    But also, as others are saying, 360p is fine sometimes. Just depends what you’re streaming.












  • Apparently Hy-vee is employee-owned

    From what I’ve heard from former employees of employee-owned grocery stores, it sounds like “employee-owned” can often be an “on paper”, kind of technicality that bolsters their image marketing-wise/PR-wise while not actually being true in practice.

    A former employee of the Price Cutter location I was talking about, when I asked about Price Cutter being worker-owned (it says so in a sign on the door as you walk in), told me that the union there was completely captured/controlled by the upper management. Like, the vice president had full veto power over what the union decided. (And why TF would a truly “employee-owned” company have/need a union. So you can collectively bargain with yourselves, the collective owners?) In practice, the union was kindof just to give employees some degree of illusion that they weren’t just wage slaves. And maybe to make creating a real union seem less feasible to employees. And maybe there are meetings that employees can attend and theoretically vote on things or whatever, but in practice, the attendees who vote don’t actually have any sway over the direction of the company or conditions for workers or anything.

    Not to say I’m not filing a complaint. It probably can’t hurt to do so. But I don’t think “it’s employee-owned” is actually necessarily any reason to think results might be better than if it didn’t say “employee-owned” on the website, unfortunately.