I can understand someone drawing a line between the playground and sewage facility when it comes to putting things in their mouth… But that’s not really the same on the receiving end.
I’m going to want to kiss the person I’m fucking and if their mouth has been on an asshole I’m not going to do that. Sorry, it grosses me out and it isn’t as good as using it on my dick anyway.
I put my partner in a hypnotic trance, crossdressed as a witch, “brewed” an aphrodisiac potion, fed it to them and then myself, cast a “spell” to freeze them in place, then fucked them with a tentacle that I “summoned,” but I can’t be kinky because I’m not a fan of applying lipshit. I’m glad you know what you like, but I think it’s good to recognize that kinks are by definition often very specific, and there are therefore so many different meanings a person can have when they describe themself as kinky. If someone tells you they’re kinky and the first thing you do isn’t clarify what kinks they have, that’s a communication issue, not something to shame them for. You don’t even know if they’re into shaming at that point!
Thank you, was going to respond with something similar.
We don’t yuck others’ yums, but we also shouldn’t yuck their lack of our yums. Being kinky is not some linear progress bar you fill, it’s an incredibly varied spectrum of things that may or may not make us tick to any degree.
To that effect, as with Jaycifer here, my play is mostly mental - the physical stuff matters less, and things like rimming aren’t even on the invite list.
So gtfo here with all that “if you don’t like this then you aren’t kinky enough” shaming bullshit. Because it comes in so many forms, and that’s the awesome fucking part.
I mean as a woman, I’ll gladly be beaten, I play with electricity and fire, and I’ve been in the leather community and power exchange scene most of my adult life, but rimming will take some convincing
OK then, let me convince you - after a previous bad experience I just stick to the outside, where it’s easy to check everythings clean. You can even make cleaning the area part of the play.
If you tie down your sub with their backside in the air, and reduce their senses with a blindfold, hood, or whatever, it can be a very very intense sensation for them. Plus, it can be a surprise, especially if mixed in with more harsh forms of play. I’ve never bothered with consent for rimming just on the outside, assuming they’ve consented to traditional s/m activities.
Ah ok, I assumed your objection would be for giving rather than receiving … typically “I don’t do butt stuff” crops up in conversation before you tie someone up, and that I would respect
Like, yeah I’m definitely not giving it, that’s not up for debate though. Receiving is where there’s room to discuss.
And it’s not like I’ve never done butt stuff, it’s just that I’ve learned to accept that I just generally prefer to stick to the other side. Especially now that I’m getting older and dealing with hemorrhoids. These days I feel butts are for hitting, grabbing, and displaying handkerchiefs.
“These days I feel butts are for hitting, grabbing, and displaying handkerchiefs.”
Still plenty of repertoire there, then!
As for hemorrhoids, between them and other issues from overuse, I ended up having surgery … can’t do internal butt stuff now, but at least I’ll get to old age with normal function. I miss it sometimes, but I guess that’s part of surviving far longer than anyone expected!
I would be okay with the strap-on but not with rimming. As another reply says, some people just don’t like the butt-mouth combination. I’m one of them.
a self proclaimed kinky guy told me that me rimming him is “too much” for him. wdym too much that’s super basic😵💫
I can understand someone drawing a line between the playground and sewage facility when it comes to putting things in their mouth… But that’s not really the same on the receiving end.
I’m going to want to kiss the person I’m fucking and if their mouth has been on an asshole I’m not going to do that. Sorry, it grosses me out and it isn’t as good as using it on my dick anyway.
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i assume you pee from your dick so does this boil down to a ranking of bodily wastes?
Yes? Shit is infinity grosser than piss. I want nothing to do with it near my face.
even then faecal bacterium still clings around after washing it.
I put my partner in a hypnotic trance, crossdressed as a witch, “brewed” an aphrodisiac potion, fed it to them and then myself, cast a “spell” to freeze them in place, then fucked them with a tentacle that I “summoned,” but I can’t be kinky because I’m not a fan of applying lipshit. I’m glad you know what you like, but I think it’s good to recognize that kinks are by definition often very specific, and there are therefore so many different meanings a person can have when they describe themself as kinky. If someone tells you they’re kinky and the first thing you do isn’t clarify what kinks they have, that’s a communication issue, not something to shame them for. You don’t even know if they’re into shaming at that point!
Thank you, was going to respond with something similar.
We don’t yuck others’ yums, but we also shouldn’t yuck their lack of our yums. Being kinky is not some linear progress bar you fill, it’s an incredibly varied spectrum of things that may or may not make us tick to any degree.
To that effect, as with Jaycifer here, my play is mostly mental - the physical stuff matters less, and things like rimming aren’t even on the invite list.
So gtfo here with all that “if you don’t like this then you aren’t kinky enough” shaming bullshit. Because it comes in so many forms, and that’s the awesome fucking part.
I mean as a woman, I’ll gladly be beaten, I play with electricity and fire, and I’ve been in the leather community and power exchange scene most of my adult life, but rimming will take some convincing
Really?
OK then, let me convince you - after a previous bad experience I just stick to the outside, where it’s easy to check everythings clean. You can even make cleaning the area part of the play.
If you tie down your sub with their backside in the air, and reduce their senses with a blindfold, hood, or whatever, it can be a very very intense sensation for them. Plus, it can be a surprise, especially if mixed in with more harsh forms of play. I’ve never bothered with consent for rimming just on the outside, assuming they’ve consented to traditional s/m activities.
Ok yeah if someone wanted to do that to me I might give it a shot. But yeah I wouldn’t be happy if she did it to me without a heads up
Ah ok, I assumed your objection would be for giving rather than receiving … typically “I don’t do butt stuff” crops up in conversation before you tie someone up, and that I would respect
Like, yeah I’m definitely not giving it, that’s not up for debate though. Receiving is where there’s room to discuss.
And it’s not like I’ve never done butt stuff, it’s just that I’ve learned to accept that I just generally prefer to stick to the other side. Especially now that I’m getting older and dealing with hemorrhoids. These days I feel butts are for hitting, grabbing, and displaying handkerchiefs.
“These days I feel butts are for hitting, grabbing, and displaying handkerchiefs.”
Still plenty of repertoire there, then!
As for hemorrhoids, between them and other issues from overuse, I ended up having surgery … can’t do internal butt stuff now, but at least I’ll get to old age with normal function. I miss it sometimes, but I guess that’s part of surviving far longer than anyone expected!
Next step: Grab the strap-on.
I would be okay with the strap-on but not with rimming. As another reply says, some people just don’t like the butt-mouth combination. I’m one of them.
Haha hilarious that your responses confirmed your thesis sadly. Eating ass is default in 26 y’all.