Honestly, I always felt the same way when I was younger. People would just meet up and fuck, like a fun thing, and I was never that into it. I thought something was wrong with me that I didn’t get it, until I started spending time with girls I had a real-life connection with, and then it was magic.
Pop culture lied to me. The club is bullshit. Casual sex is an awkward wasteland. Props if you’re into it I guess, but somehow young adult America turned it into the default, when it’s not the way.
Thing is, there is not a “way”. Some people enjoy casual sex, some yearns for a deeper connection, some don’t like sex at all. It varies depending on people, sexual preferences, mood, age, etc.
I don’t like the “they lied to me” mentality. Brother, they didn’t lie, it’s just not for you right now, and maybe never. You just need to find your way.
Honestly, I always felt the same way when I was younger. People would just meet up and fuck, like a fun thing, and I was never that into it. I thought something was wrong with me that I didn’t get it, until I started spending time with girls I had a real-life connection with, and then it was magic.
Pop culture lied to me. The club is bullshit. Casual sex is an awkward wasteland. Props if you’re into it I guess, but somehow young adult America turned it into the default, when it’s not the way.
I’ve known people who’ve wondered if they were asexual because of this, then later realized that pop culture isn’t real life.
Thing is, there is not a “way”. Some people enjoy casual sex, some yearns for a deeper connection, some don’t like sex at all. It varies depending on people, sexual preferences, mood, age, etc.
I don’t like the “they lied to me” mentality. Brother, they didn’t lie, it’s just not for you right now, and maybe never. You just need to find your way.