• floo@retrolemmy.com
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      22
      ·
      edit-2
      4 days ago

      Non-native New Yorkers. Native New Yorkers can be pretty snobbish about this. I lived there for 28 years (long enough to develop an accent), but whenever a native New Yorker found out that I wasn’t born there, I’d get that pause in conversation and a sad “oh…”

      Perhaps it’s a compliment that most native New Yorkers just assumed I was also a native. Although I don’t know what sort of compliment that is.

        • tacosanonymous@mander.xyz
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          24
          arrow-down
          1
          ·
          4 days ago

          In America, we call it “moving.”

          Only in places where they get high on their own supply do they call it “transplanting.”

          • MirthfulAlembic@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            11
            arrow-down
            1
            ·
            4 days ago

            In my experience, transplanting within the US has more to do with a significant shift in culture/region. You’re a transplant if you move from Maine to Texas. You just moved if you relocated from Maine to New Hampshire.

            • kmartburrito@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              5
              ·
              4 days ago

              In my experience it also depends on how proud/snobby about the topic the place is in question. For example in Colorado, you’re either a native or a transplant. There is no “moving”. If you weren’t born here, you’re a transplant.

              • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                2
                ·
                4 days ago

                Yeah there’s also some weird relationships. Progressive midwesterners to the pnw? Cool let me introduce you to my friends from your old city. Conservative Californians to the midwest/south? Fucking Californian transplants.

                It’s partly just if the region thinks highly of the culture where you’re from and if they think yall have good reason to come there.

                • Øπ3ŕ@lemmy.dbzer0.com
                  link
                  fedilink
                  English
                  arrow-up
                  1
                  arrow-down
                  1
                  ·
                  edit-2
                  2 days ago

                  For real. I moved to the opposite coast after college and a decade of calling it home, I happened to go on a few dates with a lovely person that I later found out was housemates with someone I dated in middle school.

                  And that’s only one instance of dozens in my decades away from that small town of my youth.

                  WTF, US.

  • Lumidaub@feddit.org
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    11
    ·
    4 days ago

    I don’t even pay taxes :( but I’m not a transplant anyway. I think. What’s a transplant? Not a native speaker is what I definitely am and all I can think of is organ donations.

    • colforge@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      14
      arrow-down
      2
      ·
      4 days ago

      I grew up in Florida and 4 years ago I moved my whole life to Oklahoma, hundreds of miles from anyone I knew (aside from my wife who’s a local). That means I’m a transplant.

      • Lumidaub@feddit.org
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        6
        ·
        4 days ago

        Oh I see, thank you. Isn’t that a very normal thing for US Americans? I’m under the impression that it’s very common for people there to move every few years (granted, this impression is influenced by entertainment media).

        • moody@lemmings.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          8
          ·
          4 days ago

          Moving to a new house or apartment is quite common in NA, but moving across the country is a different situation.

            • Øπ3ŕ@lemmy.dbzer0.com
              link
              fedilink
              English
              arrow-up
              2
              arrow-down
              1
              ·
              edit-2
              2 days ago

              I also was raised on the roadtrip dreams. Hell, I’ve based most of my travel adventures on those ideals, and have in fact moved “every couple of years”, but it’s not “normal”, nor as easy as it seems in the movies, NGL.

              After a while, it gets pretty old, really. Especially when the matrix runs outta NPCs and you begin to see surreal overlaps. That one’s really fun IRL. 😶

        • colforge@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          7
          ·
          4 days ago

          I wouldn’t say it’s “very normal” but it’s certainly not exceedingly rare. I can only speak from my experience living in areas of about 200k or fewer residents but I’ve always known a handful of transplants anywhere I’ve lived.

        • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          1
          ·
          4 days ago

          Kinda? It’s both rare enough most people you grew up around probably stayed in the same area unless your family is really spread out but also common enough to make it feel like a failure if you didn’t get to experience the country and live all over.

          I moved from a smaller area I grew up in to a big city in the same sucky state after college and I was the one who got out. But I was surrounded by people who worked their way there from the parts of the country that were deeply impoverished and also people who’d gone all over, lived on the coasts, and seen places and done things while where I grew up was just a day trip away.

  • Portosian@sh.itjust.works
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    10
    arrow-down
    3
    ·
    4 days ago

    You can’t make somebody part of a community if they don’t care about the idea of community. It feels like this woman is just projecting her insecurities. ie. “I do all of the volunteer work that I I’m trying to browbeat others into, so why do I still feel like I’m not welcome?”

    Might have something to do with the fixation on the idea of a “transplant”. Can’t say I’ve heard that before. Must be a New York thing.

    • Soup@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      6
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      4 days ago

      Except she doesn’t say that she still feels unwelcome.

      This is a weird comment and you’re weird for writing it. Lady just suggested people volunteer so they get integrated and you took offense to that while lashing out like she’s the insecure one? Ok, buddy, sure thing lol.

    • hypna@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      4 days ago

      I think its an any city with a strong identity thing. I’ve seen it in Austin, TX and Denver, CO.

      Anyway, I think the advice to volunteer when you move to a new place is good advice all the same. Communities need volunteers, and newcomers need connections.

  • Beacon@fedia.io
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    3
    ·
    4 days ago

    File doesn’t work on my phone. When i click the link it downloads a file instead of playing a video. I think maybe the filename doesn’t have a video extension at the end of it?

  • glimse@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    4
    ·
    4 days ago

    That’s Macy Gilliam of Morning Brew (Good Work) and she is big on volunteering and fundraising