This happened. 100%.
This has happened to me. Though with the opposite vibe. I was the one who was disturbed by the insistence on using social media instead of just giving me his number. So I left.
I don’t feel the need to post my life online… Continues to post personal story online
The difference is
it’s fakethe anonymity.
If you don’t have lemmy nobody will fuck you.
Her: “What’s Lemmy?”
Me: “It’s like if 500 nerds emulated the Reddit experience of 2011.”
Her: (visibly drying)
you have xmpp? -no…
Matrix, Briar, SimpleX? -no
gotta have Email at least? … … no 🧐
I only know two women who use non-standard social apps, and both of them work in NGOs with good reason to not trust corps/government.
Being on 4chan a wayyy bigger red flag than using a flip phone most of the time.
Just get What’s app for this purpose bro
Or get Signal/Telegram.
Anything that’s not owned and being excessively monitored tracked and targeted by Meta. Yes it’s end-to-end encrypted, but there’s no rules about what happens once things are decrypted at each end.
anon should’ve pulled out his Lemma and asked for her username (not that you can follow anyone here afaik) he would’ve smashed that instant
erm, a username alone is not very helpful, so unless he asked for her home instance as well, i-
Anon’s “flip phone”
Lemmy is it for me. Oh and a discord server with my gaming buddies. The rest of it just feels pretty gross.
Discord is gross. But it’s hard to convince everyone to follow you on better alternatives.
I know this is likely fake, but I have gotten that reaction from people. Folks really find it strange when you don’t have social media. The times it really sucks is when they think you’re lying and just don’t want to add them.
It’s about safety for me. Going on a date with someone is such a gamble. If they have zero social media presence, that’s outside of what’s normal. Anything outside of normal social expectations is a safety red flag to me, because you immediately become less predictable to me. I don’t want to be alone with someone I don’t really know who is unpredictable. I’m just trying not to get murdered.
Yeah I guess well socially adjusted people never turn out to be murderers, rapists or abusers of any kind /s
While like others have said this is probably fake.
That said, there is a middle ground. Any one refusing to use ANY social media probably has issues…
Those acting like this is normal, would give someone who refuses to have a cell phone weird looks or what about any phone at all?
For people refusing to use LinkedIn (or similar), that’s the same as refusing to have a resume pre Internet
Don’t expect society to bend to you, you’re NOT special.
NGL if you have a flip phone now, you’re either a contract killer, a drug dealer and or a stage 5 weirdo.
