A friend’s ex (not ex at the time) apparently sucked my dick when I was blackout drunk. She “confessed” to him, but told him I initiated, and that fucked up the friendship for a while until he confronted me about it and I set things straight. I’m pretty sure he believed me, she had a bunch of other behavioral problems and she’d cheated before, but things are still weird. At least they’re not together anymore.

Yes. (I am a woman and pretty old so I guess it goes without saying but yes.)

I actually have an important story to add. Its not my story but it is relevant and youll see why…

A few months after I graduated high school it came out that ome of the teachers at that high school had actually been secretly abusing a girl that used to attend there for years and years. I think that she only reported it only because she felt that now she was safe and free to do so after she graduated ( she never actually publicly said that this was her reasom to come forward now but it made sense that she reported it a few months after she graduated but didnt report it before cause what was stopping her all those years? Im guessing The dictatorial asshole who could ruin her school life is what Im guessing stopped her. That was how I saw the situation)

A disgustingly large number of the people who were commenting on the news story’s comment section said something along the lines: ‘Oh! MayBe sHe LikEd It ThatS whY it ToOk hEr So lonG to rEpOrt IT’ … 😐…🤢🤮

The best part was that whne the school’s administrators and principal were asked what would be done to ensure such a thing never repeats they all gave such generic bullshit answers lioe ‘it was a ome time thing’ , ‘it wont happen again cause it just wont’ , or some corporate bullshit amswer along the lines of : ‘we will conduct an internal investigation and see what we can do to emsure it never happens again. Our previous internal investigation was thorough …and we found that we did nothing wrong😋👍🏻’

We have sad stories like this coming out again and again and again (heck yoy can even hit up r/NotADragQueen on reddit for yet even more stories like these) and humanity seems reluctant to make any permanent changes to ensure that sad stories like this are made practically impossible ever again.

Also Im sorry for your pain once again 🫂

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Im so sorry for the pain you had to silently carry for years

But something Ill add is The thing I find fucked up is that we have stories like yours happening agaim and again and again and they keep on and keep on and keep om happenimg …and yet…humanity hasnt dont a darned thing to permanently change this.

We will have stories just like yours here once again in 20 years whehn someone askes this same question to the next generation sadly…

Itll never end until humanity ensures that it ends.

Sorry once again 🫂

Yes.

As a young teen by a stranger. He knew my routine and when I would be alone walking and would intercept me.

A couple of times more recently…I don’t know if it would really qualify as assault because they were pretty minor incidents but it was by women I met on a dating app.

No. I’ve had a lot of unwanted advances, accusations of “being gay” when I wouldn’t put out with women. Been hit on many times by gay men but they’ve been pretty chill about it mostly.

Had my brother dump a gay in my bedroom so he could get freaky with his friend. The gay assumed I was into it and kept moving closer to me sitting on the bed. I’m just trying to watch south park. He got a bit animated when I had to explicitly tell him I’m not at all gay.

I’m lucky though, I’m 6ft and built like a bear. Nobody properly tries forcing anything. My sheer size and stature do the fighting for me. Which is very lucky as I fight like a teddy bear…

This should be NSFW. Not everyone wants to be reminded of being SA’d by scrolling Lemmy

I’ve had my full dick and balls groped by an older (like 50’s) lady at one of my jobs (I was maybe 20-21). Brought it up to management and was told “What!? No way! She’s just a sweet old lady, she would never do anything like that!”

Meanwhile she not only grabbed my whole ass genitalia, she whispered “I’d love to see all this up close” while doing so.

No one ever believed me and it happened multiple times hence why I no longer work there…

When I was in middle school, my bully shoved four of his fingers up my butt on the school bus ride home. I never told anyone, because I was told by the Bus Driver that the bus was “Constantly being recorded” and that if anyone “did anything” it would be caught on video. A lie to prevent kids from talking I guess.

More recently at a Wendesday Breakfast/Food Bank, there’s a severely mentally handicapped individual who grabbed my boobs without permission multiple times. I didn’t know how to file a report someone so blatantly mentally disabled (I really don’t know how to politely say what he was), and he was well liked by the staff anyway, so I just stopped going.

I have been coerced before, by my ex wife.

Long story made short, if she wanted sex and I didn’t, and I said no, it would always pan out the same way. We’d start at “Did I do something wrong?” And end up at “everyone hates me and I should just go ahead and kill myself.” So I stopped saying no even if I didn’t want to, because honestly it was faster to just give her what she wanted.

As a man, it feels so minor compared to what everyone else will associate with sexual abuse, but my therapist tells me abuse is abuse and that nobody would question it if the genders were reversed.

It’s had effects even 5 years after we’ve separated, but I’m getting better. Learning to take up space again.

Yes, was SA’s by a priest when I was a kid (mid 1970s), along with a lot of other people over a 30-40 year span. In the late 1980s, there was a joint lawsuit against him, with about 130 cases, many willing to testify. But he was a “pillar of the community,” and had stronger support (and lawyers) on his side. It went back and forth for a few years, then he died of a heart attack. The case kind of died with him, except his widow went after some of us with ruthless cruelty and legal harassment.

My ex (and her friends) from over 20 years ago peer pressured me (and probably her, too) into having sex way earlier than I intended. Then she regretted it and became increasingly distant. Then I resented her for becoming distant. Then I started having non-sexual relationships with others and she resented that, so she started having casual sex with my bandmates. It was terrible for everyone involved. Should have just stood my ground when I said no the first time…

Not a typical “me too” story and I won’t pretend that the experience was anywhere near as traumatic as others have had, though it was traumatic for me and destroyed years of my young life.

I (M) was SA’d by my cousin (M) for multiple years starting at around 8 or 9. He was 5 years older than me.

I might just take an angle grinder to his headstone some day and carve PEDO into it, so everyone knows what he was.

I’m a woman.

I was SA-ed when I was 7. A teacher saved me, it would have been more than SA if he hadn’t. My mother said “I know, don’t mention it again” when I told her.

I’ve been coerced into sex by both my (ex) husband and boyfriends multiple times because I thought women had a duty to say yes when they wanted sex. I was forced to have anal sex without lube a bunch of times.

I never want to have sex with a guy again.