• Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee
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    4 hours ago

    There’s a big problem with the “women message first” gimmick, and it’s that they just don’t.

    If they don’t simply let the match expire, you either get a shitty Gif, or something along the lines of “hey.”

    Maybe one in ten will actually send a message that genuinely starts a conversation.

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      2 hours ago

      I literally saw so many profiles being like “I don’t message first”, like do you even understand what the app you’ve signed up for is?

    • Fredselfish@lemmy.world
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      2 hours ago

      Yeah I can see how women message first will tank a dating app. That fucking stupid. I get it that women get bombarded with messages from guys on dating apps. But guess what all the time I used the apps 0% was I ever messaged by a woman.

      Women don’t chase men because they don’t have too. I knew several women I help set up their dating profiles. They would get a 1000 hits, mostly guys says “hey” or the worse be :hey baby".

      How I realize just how easy and why I never had problems with dating apps. You got to give a woman more then hey and calling them baby is just cringe. Then you get the guys straight up asking for sex or nudes. Anyways point is having the app where the men can’t make a move unless the women contact you? Will not work wtf was she thinking?

      Hell most of them like to just scroll, none of them were interested in making the first move.